Jan. 26, 2017 Caregiving and Grief News Roundup

We were enthralled with this NY Times article- our children were ignored and things got messy while we read it start to finish. B.J. Miller is one inspirational man - a triple amputee who went on to become a physician focused on changing palliative care. His goal is to “de-pathologize death.” What is a good death? How do you judge it? What matters in the end? Such important questions, and we are so glad B.J. is asking them. 

Photo credit: Melissa Kroll Photography http://www.melissakrollphotography.com/

Photo credit: Melissa Kroll Photography http://www.melissakrollphotography.com/

Another recent NY Times article asks "Who Will Care for the Caregivers?" and states that "we — as doctors, employers, friends and extended family — aren’t doing enough to help them." It covers so many points we agree with! Family caregivers aren't always included in decisions about patient care but are expected to perform complex medical tasks at home with little training.  And as we've said, policies that increase paid leave and provide flexible work schedules would help support family caregivers. 

Yes, yes, this is what we’ve been saying. Being a family caregiver is difficult. Can’t we make it easier? As this states, “Affordability for long-term care is surfacing as a clear and growing challenge for families.” Caregivers are gaining influence.

Anne Tumlinson of Daughterhood highlights one of our favorite topics: sibling caregivers, and we were lucky enough to be mentioned in the post. She shares tips for avoiding conflict and building better sibling relationships while caring for aging parents.

This beautiful and honest story from Zach Sobiech’s sister, Alli, is worth a read. We relate to her story of sibling loss, anxiety and grief, and efforts to help her child know his deceased uncle.

As we mentioned beforePrince Harry has spoken about grieving the death of his mother. People magazine recently featured his story about grief. He shares that he suppressed his emotions for a long time, but now is energized after finding a way to carry on his mother’s legacy through his charity work.

This radio show via KALW in San Francisco is part of a series covering end of life issues. Palliative care training is now offered in almost all medical school training, but unfortunately there is a shortage of doctors specializing in this. Dr. Jessica Zitter is interviewed, an ICU physician who specializes in palliative care, and talks about her personal practice “resisting the urge to do more” and asking her team to think about “how is this really going to help?”