“A sibling is someone who knows all about you, but loves you anyway.”
In honor of National Siblings Day, we wanted to take a moment to recognize how important siblings are and that they deserve to be honored. Siblings Day is recognized in several states but not yet as a federal holiday. Claudia Evart started the Siblings Day Foundation after losing both of her only siblings. The Foundation has been working to establish April 10th as the official federal holiday of Siblings Day. Click here to check out their work and sign the petition: http://www.siblingsdayfoundation.org/about-us.
Siblings shape us, mirror us, and understand us like only lifelong best friends and rivals can do. We love hearing and reading stories about siblings’ bonds, experiences growing up together, and changing and deepening friendships into adulthood, like Satellite Sisters' UnCommon Senses and Little Women. We know how fortunate we are to have such amazing sisters and feel that our personalities and lives would be much less interesting if we didn’t have sisters. Certainly, we would not have survived the most difficult year of our lives following our sister Colleen’s death without our sisters to lean on, to vent to, to commiserate with, to cry with, and to laugh with. We are stuck with our sisters - we can’t give them away, fire them, or break up with them - and we are so happy.
For us, this day also brings some sadness as we reflect on our loss of Colleen as our big sister. A void has been left in our lives. Similar to Mother’s Day or Father’s Day being difficult for those who lost a parent, today may be hard for those of us who have lost a sibling. We think about Colleen today, how much she influenced us, and how much she did for us. She would do things for us that we were too scared to do, like asking a boy to a dance. When our babies were born, she came to help and saved us by cooking, doing laundry, grocery shopping, rocking and feeding the babies in the middle of the night. She was always trying to make our lives easier, but she was the one who needed an easier life. While Colleen cared for us for most of our lives, it became our turn to care for her at the end of her life. When she battled end-stage cancer, we took on the most challenging and significant role, one that personally changed us. Siblings are bonded like glue and you can't get rid of them - and that also means that they will be with you until the end. On this great holiday, we want to give a shout-out to sisters and all siblings, but especially to those sibling caregivers facing the hardest role of their lives.